Everyone wants a perfect love life.
But who can get it?
No One to be exact.
Yeah.I admit.
I am one of those silly girls dreaming of a wonderful love life especially after watching some romance movies or dramas.
That is why our mind are needed to be detoxified!
Everyday is a fairytale but only when we are dreaming!
Nowadays, people are demanding for fireworks, sparkles or some sort of complicated chemistry in their relationship.
Yes.I am one of them.
Who wants a dull relationship?
But as your anniversaries move from the 3rd to the 4th year or 4th to the 5th year and the list goes on, you'll realised that it is quite impossible to maintain the sparks in reality.
In order to go on, face it and deal with it or else you'll come out with a list of your BF/GF names.
Yeah.I know I change bf for a couple of times. =_=
i know.mine should be love storIES.
Everything has changed.
I wonder how our parents, grandparents, ancestors maintain with only one partner in their whole life.clean record.
It is hard to find a couple who can marry with their first love.
Extinct already lah hor.
Sometimes I do think being in a relationship is troublesome.
Firstly, you need to commit in it IF you are longing for an everlasting relationship.
Seriously, commitment is a very serious issue and involvement in a relationship.
I know I failed in this in my previous relationship.I'm sorry.
Commitment is not just about ABC or 123..
It is about you taking your responsibility as a BF/GF of your partner and to love your partner unconditionally.
...and of course it is not a responsibility to love someone.don't get me wrong!
Maybe some of you might define commitment in your own perceptions and it depends on how u define or want it to be.
...and if you think it negatively, commitment is a burden.
Yes.I do think it is sometimes.
As for freedom, phewwww~~
This is darn important!
How can one live without freedom?
That is why I put "chiewbee wants to be a freEeee beEeee" in my msn.
But what does freedom means in terms of relationship?
Freedom of being able to hang out with anyone you like?
To do whatever you want, to flirt with anyone, to be free of being controlled, to have your own precious time,..basically....to do anything you want without being tied up!
Sometimes, you don't even actually realise you are stealing the freedom of your loved ones because you are blinded by the word LOVE.
I know not all GFs/BFs would take away their partner's freedom.
..and nowadays I bet most of the couples are giving freedom (limited) to each other.
This is a healthier relationship.at least for me.
But somehow, I do think that freedom will be taken away.
I know I am selfish.
However, when you found someone who loves you a lot and you love him/her a lot too, things might change.
Be it the way you act or think.
..and of course, if you seriously think that he/she is your Mr/Mrs.Right, do not let go this potential relationship as you might not find someone like him/her anymore.
It all depends on how far or deep your are able to commit or give in your relationship.
There is no such thing as who gives more or who gives less.
It can't be measured.
Love should be of a balance commitment and sacrifice.
I know I am "long-winded"..
I have a sudden rush to write this.
This issue bothers me a lot.
A lot of confusions and dilemmas.
It hits me even more when I see many people are actually facing this problem.
Hopefully they can settle their problem!
All the best wishes to all the couples out there!!!!
♥ XOXO ♥
i can see stars* around me now...
2 comments:
I totally 100% agree with your theories.
Well, you touched on the subject of freedom in a relationship, as for me, I always think that freedom, comes along with trust. If you truly trust your partner, then he/she can do his/her usual things that he/she do always, flirt and whatever, and you are fine with what he/she is doing because you know that at the back of your mind, you know that he/she will come back to you.
As for how to be in a long relatinoship, some people think that what happens now will always stay the same even in the future, but then again, this is never true. To be in a long-lasting relationship, there must be effort from both people, to re-create sparks, otherwise, the sparks will eventually die down and when the sparks eventually die, one starts to think, why did I go into this? Main reason why you went into this in the first place would be that you feel something going on between the two of you right? That's the thing that keeps you two together, it keeps you interested in your partner, it separates your partner from your other friends. I know my parents, once in a while, they just leave the children behind at home with dinner, and then they go out to have a romantic dinner somewhere, just be alone with each other. Other times, you can just see them cuddle at home, that's how the old people, our parents, grandparents, uncle and aunts stay together. Its their way of telling their partner, "Hey, we've been together for a long time and I still love you"
Remember, its the little things that count :D
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